Ruy (Updated)

I woke up at 3 in the morning and I haven’t been able to sleep since. Ruy is snoring softly here beside me and I got to thinking about how lucky I am to have found somebody I still genuinely liked and liked me back even after being together for 10 years and being on our 4th year of marriage. I thought I’d share some trivia about Ruy and myself.

• We still remember exactly what we wore on our first date together. He wore these HORRIBLE green shades. YES, they were GREEN! I told him after he looked like a fly. =)
• I kept on lying to Ruy about having watched movies already because I wasn’t comfortable watching movies with guys I didn’t know so well (oh ha, conservative!)
• Ruy and I were both dating other people when we met.
• When I was in highschool I made a list of non negotiables when it comes to the guy I’m going to marry. Ruy has everything on my list.
• Here’s my list: 1. Speaks English VERY WELL, 2. Really intelligent, preferrably smarter than me, 3. Treats drivers, yayas, vendors, well, 3. Religious, 4. Has a great relationship with mom and family, 5. Faithful, 6. Loves me more than I love him (courtesy of my mom), 7. Is not physically aggressive (with anyone but specifically with me)
• I used to ask God for signs and I made this prayer when I was 16 that if God has chosen a guy for me, this guy will sing a particular song for me. This song was not popular at that time (it was revived recently), it was an OPM song and was released in the 80s. Ruy sang the song to me even before we started dating. When I heard him sing the song I didn’t put two and two together instead, I was pissed and said “Damn, now I need to find a new song to turn into a sign”…only when we were engaged did I realize that the sign was given to me early on.
• The first 3 years of our relationship were CRAZY. Probably cause I had so many issues and I was crazy. I can’t believe Ruy didn’t leave me at that time.
• Ruy’s infamous line is “I’m not going to leave you just because you’re screwed up”
• In college, I would go to school with bruises up my arm because my little sister (who was a toddler at that time) would be biting me, etc. Everyone thought Ruy was beating me up.
• I once fell flat on the floor and had a big wound across my eyebrow…Ruy’s family thought he beat me.
• Contrary to what everyone seems to think…Ruy has never beaten me…intentionally. He has hit me while he’s sleeping…FREUDIAN?
• Ruy’s definition of dessert consist of eating another meal…
• Ruy claims he married me even if I didn’t know how to cook then because my lola’s excellent cooking more than makes up for my lack of cooking (bwisit!)
• Ruy and I are both happy staying at home or eating out. We just can’t do the bar scene or the party scene…we’re boring that way.
• When we reached our 4th year as a couple, breaking up started becoming a non-option. We would fight knowing that we’re just fighting about the issue but we weren’t going to separate…it made a world of difference in terms of our feeling of security within the relationship.
• We don’t check phones or emails…we both know each other’s passwords but looking at his email is just too tedious and too boring that I’m not even tempted to look
• I didn’t want to change my surname but that was the only thing Ruy was absolutely resolute about was that if we were going to marry then I had to get his surname, hyphens weren’t allowed either.
• We don’t curse or shout when fighting.
• Ruy’s exes all had beatiful voices…which is why I didn’t allow him to hear me sing up until we were married.
• Ruy’s very shy…he’s not even comfortable holding my hands when we’re with my family or with his family.
• Ruy’s MAKULIT. Sobra.

I LOVED DOING THIS. Made me feel all warm and mushy inside. =) Hey married people….tell me about your husbands.