When did that Happen?

I was thinking about friends and friendships when I realized that my bestfriend right now is Ruy. Wow…that’s seriously a shocker for me!

I asked myself when that happened? I used to hate it when Ruy treated me like a friend and not as a girlfriend (obviously this was an issue before we became husband and wife). We even had one major fight over this, and now here I am thinking that he’s my best friend?

I guess it happened when I started whining to him (and not to other people) about things I didn’t like in and about our relationship. I guess it happened when I realized that this is that one person who knows practically all my bad habits and still accepts (and loves) me. 

It could have happened when I cried to him after getting hurt at work.  (and no dear people from the office, this was not recent…although I cried about that too)  I don’t like having people see me cry. Somehow with Ruy it feels okay.

It could have happened when I told him for the first time last year “I’m scared”. Wow…I have never uttered those two words to anyone before.

It also could have happened when I realized that it’s hard for me to find someone who matches my level intellectually. This is not a matter of intelligence but a matter of wavelength. Some people are just in a different frequency altogether. (It’s even hard for me to find someone with the same frequency in my own family.) I don’t know if you guys have ever felt this way but sometimes when I talk to people I kinda understand what they’re saying and I can respond appropriately but I never really feel like I can say whatever I want to say and it would be accepted and understood.  Take me and my cousins, I always feel like an outsider joining them when I talk to them. Yes we’re all nice and cordial but the conversations are just….different. I guess the wonderful thing about what I have with Ruy is that I don’t feel like an outsider anymore.

This is a guy who appreciates my brand of humor. This is the guy who can take my sarcasm and would even call it wit. (I’ve barely used sarcasm in my family…it just won’t fly) This is a guy who appreciates talking about Business Strategies one time, Psychology the next, then Will Ferrel. Who else would do that with me?

I’ve been asked what I like most about Ruy…I guess it’s the fact that he’s my best friend in the truest meaning of the word.