January 10, 2008

I know of so many men who wince at the thought of seeing a Marriage Counselor. I heard so many erroneous arguments from men as to why they shouldn’t go:

- “It’s our problem how can an outsider fix it”

-”It’s not like we’re going to divorce, we’re just fighting”

-”Why? Do you want to leave me?”

-”I don’t want to tell other people about our problems”

-”Why should I see a counselor, I’m not crazy?”

- “If you don’t want to be with me then just leave”

- “I can fix this”

Being a psychologist, I strongly believe in the value of Marriage Counseling. When couples are having problems, each person feels victimized and attacked. When you feel like you’re the victim, it’s hard to see the other’s person’s point of view. Getting Marriage Help will guarantee that you can extend empathy to one another and see where the other person’s coming from.

I can’t understand why people won’t do this for the most important relationship in their life. Sometimes, hearing another person’s perspective just does wonders. The counseling sessions also provide you with a venue to voice out all your concerns without attacking the other. You are also forced to face issues you’ve been avoiding which could be eating away into your relationship.

Andrea turned 10 months yesterday and so I bought her a cake and took her picture as what I do every month. I’ll be posting the photos later or maybe tomorrow. I left the camera in my car.

Here are the things Andrea can do at 10 months:

- Wave goodbye on demand (When I say “Say bye Andrea”)

- When people ask her where here tongue is she sticks it out.

- Try to smile her way out of trouble. When I tell her “Andrea No!” she stops what she’s doing, but doesn’t remove her hand from what she’s touching. She slowly looks at me, then smiles at me…tsk tsk tsk

- Initiates peek-a-boo. She stands on her crib, then gently folds her knee so I can only see her hand. I will then say “Oh no, where’s Andrea?” then she’ll pop-up (almost jumping) and I’ll say “Peek-a-boo”. Occassionaly you can hear her say “pee-boo” . Sometimes she gets so excited, she forgets that she has to hide first when she plays peek-a-boo so she just keeps on jumping.

- She has repeatedly taken 6 independent steps. No holding, no cruising, just her standing up in the middle of the bed and walking towards me.

- Has become more social specially with other kids. She keeps on going near other kids wherever we are and it sometimes irritates the bigger kids. Oh well

- Has become adamant in showing us what she wants. When she points to the door, her whole body goes with her point. When you try to give her milk and it’s not time she pushes your hand away. When someone she doesn’t like tries to get her, she pushes their hand (sometimes even spanks them) while clinging to whoever’s holding her.

- Has become KSP. When it’s afternoon and the people around her are doing other things, she calls them (by shouting)  and then smiles. She needs attention…oh no

I’m overwhelmed at how much she seems like a big girl now. It’s annoying…I want my baby again…hehehe